At first when I came across titles like “Why Men Love Bitches,” I was amused, just smiled, and moved on.
But then I kept running into more books promoting the message that bad girls win at love.
I was clearly disappointed.
Especially, when a few of these titles became best-sellers, it made me wonder what kind of a society are we creating.
All that these books tend to do is provide tricks to game men, either into falling in love, or to get the respect they deserve, and everything else in between.
However, the question that remains is, why bitches?
Somehow, people are gathering a notion that being a bitch equates to being a strong woman. Far from it.
To begin with, a strong woman will have no need to identify herself as a bitch, even if it was just for names sake.
Secondly, tricks don’t win hearts. Authenticity does.
Just like men can’t fool women into love, no matter how much they think they can, similarly, women cannot make men fall in love with them, by trying to put up an act.
Simply because fake behavior repels authentic love.
Why Women Fall for the Bitch Trap
It’s the marketing. You are told; strong, sassy, attractive, and respect worthy women, are those who act in a certain way.
What you are given is a mixed recipe of domination, and submission.
Both qualities do not reflect a truly strong woman.
Who is strong in her own right, without ever needing to submit, or dominate.
These behaviors are based on tricks and manipulation.
The moment you get in that zone, you are also moving out of the authenticity zone.
Trying to emulate anyone else’s behavior is as close as it gets to being fake.
Even if that behavior is something that reflects wonderful women.
Simply because right behavior is only a reflection of the trueness of your being.
In other words, you don’t have to portray yourself as being anyone whatsoever.
All you need to do, is just allow your unique being to flow, and flower.
What Stops You From Being You
The only reason you’d not be you, is out of fear.
The so called personality that you have come up with, lives in fear.
Because a personality has nothing to do with the person.
It is just a figment of imagination.
Since it is fake by birth, it is always seeking approval that it is something real.
Then someone tells you, strong women act like bitches, and you buy that.
Someone else comes along and tells you that tricking men is the way to their heart, and you buy that.
And so it goes, on and on.
In the end, you are left with a confused mind, and a messed up personality.
The result? You end up with men who are of a similar nature.
They come, and they wreck your life, but you don’t get to complain, because you unknowingly, gave the invitation to do so.
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How to Attract the Right Man In Your Life
All these women who fell for wrong ideas, were simply looking for a way to be in a fulfilling relationship.
Sadly, they were misled.
Here’s how you can be in a right relationship, effortlessly.
Stop Trying to Act Like Anyone
You don’t have to learn manipulative behaviors, all you have to do is drop them.
Forget everything you know about what women should do to find true love, and just get back to yourself.
What this means is, you are willing to move out of your comfort zone.
You are willing to rediscover yourself, by releasing all the labels you’ve given yourself. Good or bad.
Know That You are Already Complete
All those movies, and novels have you convinced, that when you find your prince charming, you will feel at home. That he will complete you.
To which I have only this to say — it was the most convincing lie you’ve ever heard.
It arouses all kinds of fantasies, and dreams, and hopes of a better tomorrow.
With someone special, who will treat you like a princess.
Then you go out in the world, looking for someone like that, and you meet with reality, that brings huge disappointment.
You then tell yourself, may be I ended up with the wrong guy, and you turn away from him, someone else comes along, he appears to be the prince charming you’ve been looking for, and everything goes well for a while, and again, you end up disappointed.
Experience after experience, has you convinced that there is no such thing as true love.
You settle for a cheap bargain, and call it a day.
Living the rest of your life, feeling unsatisfied, and unfulfilled.
Never knowing this one simple truth: You are already complete.
You don’t need no-one to make you feel at home, or at peace.
That happiness, that fulfillment that you seek, never comes from the outside.
It is an inside job.
It has only eluded you all these years, because you were looking for it in the wrong place.
Come back home, to yourself.
That’s where true love, happiness, reside.
No man on the face of this earth has the power to make you feel complete.
Because you already are.
You only got to wake up to that fact.
A Complete Woman, Attracts a Complete Man
It is funny how life works. When you are seeking love and companionship, in fact, it won’t be an overstatement to say, when you are begging for it, it eludes you.
But when you realize, you don’t need none of it, it falls in your lap. Just like that.
Why does this happen? Because you found your center.
You found true love, which is your being.
What do you do when you have something in abundance?
You give it right? You share it with others.
What do you do when you have love in abundance?
It overflows.
In life, you always get, what you give.
And that’s where you start.
Begin with you, because there’s no one else in this world like you.
Give yourself wholeheartedly to the world, that is the secret to a happy life.
Everything else is irrelevant.